Originally Posted by Acorn
You notice your spouse is drifting away from you and your marriage is struggling. When asked, the answer given is that you are too busy. In your opinion, you always carve out a few hours each week to be with your spouse if they want the time.
Your spouse time should not be carved out of your social time. Your other social activities should be worked out around your spouse time. Spouse time first or your spouse will feel like second fiddle, which is clearly the case here.
My mom messed up her health because she was always "too busy to eat". I told her that health is not something to pencil into your planner around other commitments. It has to be the other way around. It's the same for marital health.