Originally Posted by williamjohnson
Maybe I'm just crazy, but the notion of forbidding my wife to do something strikes me as old fashioned. I might just be a fool...but I feel it's not in my principles to act like I have dominion over a woman. Even though it felt absolutely awful to leave them alone and go to bed by myself, I also saw it as a chance for her to recognize how uncomfortable I felt and to do something about it (she failed that test).
She knows how I feel and the ball is in her court. Is this weak of me? Should I be more of a "man" and tell her what to do and also give this guy a piece of my mind? I want to do those things, but still, my principles are holding me back. I am currently drinking some whiskey. At 11am.
This is your marriage and your life too. Don't leave the ball in her court to do something stupid that will destroy your marriage. Take control of how you want things to go.
There should be respect in marriage, and she's not respecting you. There is nothing wrong with protecting your marriage, and insisting that she stop something that is hurting your marriage. It's not old fashioned.