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SweetAndSour · 02-28-2012, 04:23 PM

We were married for 1.5 years when she had her first affair.

We both were talking about not doing a good job as husband and wife, either of us, and considering to consider divorce. It was mostly a talk we engage sometimes after the problems we had during our (yet) short marrige but other than that we were living in the same house, cooking, eating good food, watching a movie with wine or beer and going to bed together, doing almost everything together at the time. Life was easy, no kids, no health problems, we were financially good. We were working on our second college degrees. We were mostly enjoying what we have than despiseing it.

Frequency of sex was once a week then. For a 23 years old woman and 28 year old man I call it a sexless marriage.

It was a friday or saturday night. A male friend of my wife showed up around 09:00 pm. I saw him once before and she talked to him twice before I guess. He was more of a new acquitance then a friend to her.

He had asked my wife early that day that if she (and I, for not being too forward I guess) would like to join him and his friends to go to a club/disco that night. She said OK and it didn't seem too far off to me since we were in a college environment and partying/socializing was a good part of it.

I didn't want to join in that group because I was too busy with my work around that time. And they left after last time she asked me to go with them.

After about 02:00 am that night I started getting nervous. She wasn't back, I didn't know the guy well and any one in that group of people. I knew that, that club was closing at 02:00 am. It was a time before we had cell phones.

All I could do is to find his phone (he was living with his family) from the directory and talk to his mom very early in the morning.

She came back around 07:00 am next morning. She hugged me and started crying. She said she had sex with him.

I was'nt ready for that even after it was so appearent.

It turned out, there was not a group of people, just my wife and him and the friend of his to give them a ride to the club.

I guess even the guy was'nt expecting to score so quick, he didn't made any plans for a **** place. My wife payed for the no tell motel, I guess she dragged him there.

Seeing her taking off her fancy lingerie, which she only wears for a special occasion, getting ready to get in our bad and crying at the same time....... That was 18 years ago...... Time doesn't heal you if you are on the wrong medicine.....

02-28-2012, 04:23 PM	#50 (permalink)
SweetAndSour Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 222	Re: I am pissed of as never before. We were married for 1.5 years when she had her first affair. We both were talking about not doing a good job as husband and wife, either of us, and considering to consider divorce. It was mostly a talk we engage sometimes after the problems we had during our (yet) short marrige but other than that we were living in the same house, cooking, eating good food, watching a movie with wine or beer and going to bed together, doing almost everything together at the time. Life was easy, no kids, no health problems, we were financially good. We were working on our second college degrees. We were mostly enjoying what we have than despiseing it. Frequency of sex was once a week then. For a 23 years old woman and 28 year old man I call it a sexless marriage. It was a friday or saturday night. A male friend of my wife showed up around 09:00 pm. I saw him once before and she talked to him twice before I guess. He was more of a new acquitance then a friend to her. He had asked my wife early that day that if she (and I, for not being too forward I guess) would like to join him and his friends to go to a club/disco that night. She said OK and it didn't seem too far off to me since we were in a college environment and partying/socializing was a good part of it. I didn't want to join in that group because I was too busy with my work around that time. And they left after last time she asked me to go with them. After about 02:00 am that night I started getting nervous. She wasn't back, I didn't know the guy well and any one in that group of people. I knew that, that club was closing at 02:00 am. It was a time before we had cell phones. All I could do is to find his phone (he was living with his family) from the directory and talk to his mom very early in the morning. She came back around 07:00 am next morning. She hugged me and started crying. She said she had sex with him. I was'nt ready for that even after it was so appearent. It turned out, there was not a group of people, just my wife and him and the friend of his to give them a ride to the club. I guess even the guy was'nt expecting to score so quick, he didn't made any plans for a **** place. My wife payed for the no tell motel, I guess she dragged him there. Seeing her taking off her fancy lingerie, which she only wears for a special occasion, getting ready to get in our bad and crying at the same time....... That was 18 years ago...... Time doesn't heal you if you are on the wrong medicine..... Last edited by SweetAndSour; 02-28-2012 at 04:33 PM.