| | Re: Nothing in common,etc
My biggest marriage problems also started after the birth of my second child. We never really had common interests and activities, just going to dinner and movies. We did share in taking care of our first child, but after we had two, hubby decided he didn't want to help anymore with childrearing. My depression and stress grew through the years. I also lost my job, and was at home for 2 whole years.
I think it is important to spend time with your husband (hire a sitter, datenight), spend time by yourself (just read), spend time with your girlfriends (girltalk), and spend time as a family (picnic in a park). Balance is key. Nurture yourself first, or you won't have the emotional energy to focus on your marriage or your kids.