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husband of >20 years suddenly feels a strong 'friendship' bond with married lady from church. Think he's in midlife crisis, just hit 50. She's 29. We've always been very close, best friends, do everything together. Suddenly, he needs space and time apart, wants a sports call, exercising rigorously. They talk on the phone and have met for lunch. She goes to our church but also her attends her relatives church. Suddenly he switches his membership to her relatives church. Of course he goes alone as I won't leave our church. She's married also. They admitted to each other they were developing feelings for each other but took the high road and agreed it was wrong and decided to be 'just friends'. He wants a pat on the back for being 'just friends' but he won't break communication as I've asked and says I'm being overly jealous and insecure. I'm angry all the time now. My H now wants to be friends with her husband and hang out. Of course, her H knows nothing about what's happened and I think this is an excuse to spend more time with her. He stayed away as I asked for about a week. But says he loves the other church and thinks I should be fine with him going there. Being the logical person I am, I gave in and felt it was unfair of me to demand he not go there. Now he's hanging out with her and her hubby and planning a camping trip this weekend. Of course, I can't go, have to work. He's never cheated before (physically) but has fallen emotionally for several women in the past. I'm at my wits end. Sometimes I feel like the wicked witch putting undue demands on him. Other times i feel like a fool for not putting my foot down firmer. What advice do you have? Also, the other woman is handicapped but still attractive. She is partially blind and crippled. This is insane. HELP!