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Hi.
The woman I know met a married man who told her he loved her. he told her he would leave his wife and they could build a life together. For a year she believed him, and he believed himself.

Towards the end of that year she was discovered and confronted by the man's wife.
She said. " It is really nothing to do with me, take it up with your Husband"
She got tired of hiding, she got tired of being told the things he was going to do.
He was only available very little time. cancelled dates at the last moment and had family holidays to go on.
He told her he was just doing it for appearances but he wouldn't be able to be in so much contact. He loved her, but it was "difficult" then. it made her want him more. The longing was unbearable.

She ended it. Told him that he should only come back when he was ready to leave his wife. He vanished, for a while.

Six months later he contacted her again and this time he started the process of finding a place to rent for them. She bought a new car for them. Her heart skipped a beat when she saw him. They were going to be together.
On the day he was to sign the lease on their new house and life he told her. " I can't do this" and went back to his wife.

She went away, a long way away, her heart broke like it had never broken before. She cried for a week and then another.

She came back and the house they were going to rent together and build a life was full of flowers. Not him though. he told her he loved her. She saw for the first time, as you are seeing now what he was. Weak.

Never speak to me again. He had wasted two years of her life, all the lies they had told each other came into her mind.

15 years later and she still feels the guilt and feels so incredibly stupid. It was when I had this story that I understood what real remorse is.
I am so sad that you have put yourself where you are. There is no way to avoid the broken heart. none

Find someone who deserves you.
He does not.