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Amplexor · 03-25-2008, 09:13 AM

This is definitely an emotional affair and if your husband admits it’s happened before he should recognize how dangerous this could be to your marriage. You are not being selfish or the wicked witch in wanting time with your husband. You are being a loving spouse that is not being treated fairly. In most cases an emotional affair is driven by a feeling of not being fulfilled in some aspect of the marriage. My wife had one last year and it damaged the marriage further than it was already. She felt unappreciated and unneeded in our marriage and rightfully so. I had withdrawn from her but didn’t mean to hurt her. She fell out of love with me and developed deep feelings for him. It is over now but we still haven’t recovered as a couple. It will take time for her to return to me as my wife. In your case I’d think about what he might feel he is missing in the marriage and what TOW may be providing him. Discuss it with him and let him know you want to provide him with the things he desires but that you have needs also and want more time with him as a couple. As in a physical affair he will have to end all contact with her to fully reconnect with you. Good luck in this. Be prepared that it may take a long time for you to recover as a couple.

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Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 740	Re: need advice-husband emotional affair? This is definitely an emotional affair and if your husband admits it’s happened before he should recognize how dangerous this could be to your marriage. You are not being selfish or the wicked witch in wanting time with your husband. You are being a loving spouse that is not being treated fairly. In most cases an emotional affair is driven by a feeling of not being fulfilled in some aspect of the marriage. My wife had one last year and it damaged the marriage further than it was already. She felt unappreciated and unneeded in our marriage and rightfully so. I had withdrawn from her but didn’t mean to hurt her. She fell out of love with me and developed deep feelings for him. It is over now but we still haven’t recovered as a couple. It will take time for her to return to me as my wife. In your case I’d think about what he might feel he is missing in the marriage and what TOW may be providing him. Discuss it with him and let him know you want to provide him with the things he desires but that you have needs also and want more time with him as a couple. As in a physical affair he will have to end all contact with her to fully reconnect with you. Good luck in this. Be prepared that it may take a long time for you to recover as a couple. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.