Originally Posted by chapparal
I think she should be getting individual counseling if she has depression and self esteem issues. However, it seems a lot of the women cheaters here use self esteem issues as their excuse to cheat.
I personally think getting too many details is detrimental to reconciling.
Two of the things that help the most (besides time) is working out regularly and going to your doctor and getting some meds to smooth out the rougher spots. A good workout relieves stress and brings on a natural high and confidence boost. Concentrate on improving your self with some new clothes and a new haircut. Loose a lttle weight maybe too.
Something that might help restore your wifes confidence in herself might be to go to : Married Man Sex Life
Also buy the book. Every marriage can use a little help in this dept.
Funnily enough I had begun the Insanity workout towards the beginning of her affair. I have dropped 20 lbs in 4 weeks and continue to work out daily. I was having esteem issues and wanted to look better for myself and if she enjoyed it too, all the better. It's taken the wind out of my sails for workouts a bit, but I'm trying to get back into the swing of things. The results can't be ignored and I want to see more.