BrokenFrag

As a man, I can certainly say not every man out there feels the need to cheat just because he is a man. In fact, there are men out there who will never cheat, no matter how much is missing from a relationship. There are things in my marriage that my wife doesn't give me, but I have never, ever let myself near a situation that might lead me astray. I promised my love and fidelity to my wife 8 years ago and I believe that those promises supercede nearly everything, even my own happiness to an extent. Of course, as I feel the need to plaster everywhere, my wife doesn't have the resolve that I have. She has had an online relationship with a man from her office for the last several months. I just found out about it. In some respects, I am feeling more like a woman in the way that I feel the need to beg for a second chance and prove to her and me that I am the one she loves. She should be begging for forgiveness, not me. But there you have it. The risk of truly loving someone is that you can truly be hurt.

The one thing I do think is that you should not get together with another person right after this. You need to spend time by yourself to get right again before exploring new relationships, otherwise the new relationship may suffer because it is coming from a place of fear or anger or loss.