Originally Posted by BrokenFrag

My wife is going through a similar patch. Thankfully we don't have any kids to drag through the mud. I have been married nearly 8 years and I AM the boring guy. She was a bit of a wild child, but she wanted to settle down. Now, she wants a taste of that again. She goes out drinking and staying over at friends, she has been distant, and finally she started a relationship with a guy at work (which I just found out about). She is in counseling to try to figure out what she really wants, but her actions so far have already given a pretty good indication of what she wants. My wife has said she will work on her marriage, but I think that is only because that is what she supposed to do, and that if "tries" a little longer, she can leave with a clearer conscience. Since we have no kids, it is only our potential future that might bring her back, which is why I have no hope for myself. However, your wife has kids, and I think that in the end she needs to focus on. Good luck to you.