Beowulf

Sex is a need. Just like affection, financial security, honesty, communication, etc. Barring a legitimate reason like a medical condition, if a spouse's needs are not being met then there is a problem that threatens the very foundation of the marriage.

Sex is a basic biological need for most men just like most women choose a man at least partially based on his ability to provide for her and her children. So when Toffer says that if sex is taken off the table the man should be able to reduce or quit his job, there is a logical consequence of each decision.

The problem is that women generally do not understand how much men need sex and many times men do not understand how much women need affection and communication. It takes both parties trying to understand and accommodate the other to make a marriage work. When only one party is really making the effort the relationship breaks down.