Originally Posted by Toffer

Tosh, at least at this point there are no children to bog this down further.

I think you again need to go to your wife and explain to her that what you have is not a marriage. It's more of a roommate living arrangement with very seldom sex.

You need to be up front with her and tell her again that this needs to be fixed (counseling) or the two of you are better going off on your seperate ways to find real happiness with others.

She needs to find out from her MD if the birthcontrol is causing some/all of this. Hell, judging by what you say, she doesn't need to be on it anyway!