Have you ever heard of alanon? its for family and friends of alcoholics. There are a lot of women there, and some men, who are going through exactly what you are and can really help you learn some coping skills. i went to some meetings myself and it was so helpful. if there isnt a group in your area then you can also get the literature off their website. its really helpful. Welcome to Al-Anon and Alateen
"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
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