swedish

It's hard to say one way or the other, but for me my imagination is worse than asking for details and hearing it so I can put it to rest at some point. In my opinion, he should be working to rebuild trust. If he is still lying and covering up the details it will be difficult for you to heal. I'm sure he feels blind sighted every time you bring up something new, so maybe you both should agree on how to handle your insecurities (which I don't think you should bury) to help you get through this...maybe a scheduled time to talk about it so he knows it's coming or talk to him about why you are asking him questions..it's not to punish him...it's to heal you. I'm in a similar position and struggle with the same thing...what to say and when to just drop it.