Re: Help a friend
Here is her update my comments will follow on the next post, can an admin pm her on how to get her posts up? I am not sure if there is a problem or not.
An Update: We go to our first counseling session on Friday. I picked a male counselor to make my husband feel more comfortable and at ease.
Right now, we are talking daily trying to work our way toward forgiveness. Some days are better than others. Like yesterday, we both got off the phone and felt really good about everything. But, today when we talked, it seemed as if everything changed- he seemed very angry and demanded to know things- like the reason why I did it, which I am still unsure of myself.
I know that I liked the nice things that the guy said, but why? Why was that so important to me? Why did it make me feel so good? There just words, and the guy didn't even know me. All this still doesn't answer why I let it become sexual in content- Im not a sexual driven person- I don't need sex to survive... it's not so important to me that I should not have even considered my husband's feelings.. but that's what I felt like I did.. like I didn't even think anything through- like I completely ignored the fact that I had a husband much less loved him. My husband seems to think that I allowed it to happen b/c I didn't love him- but I really don't think that's it at all... I've been with my husband a long time and I love and care for him a great deal. If I didn't, I dont think I would be willing to stick this out...
When we go to counseling, what are they going to get us to do? Are they going to start blaming my husband for what I did?
You can post this if u'd like... I can't figure out how to do it... so completely forum illiterate...
Thanks again for all your help. I really appreciate it.
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