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Having young children and being tired doesn't help. It could be that you just don't have matching sex drives. But, if you are hunting something for her to read (and you too) that will have a positive influence on your marriage, then I have a recommendation. Read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It is obvious that your primary love language is probably "physical touch and intimacy" while hers is something else. Once her "language needs" are met, you will get more intimacy. At least that's how it is supposed to work since medical reasons have been ruled out. That's how my marriage feel apart anyway. The stbx wanted sex, but wasn't willing to show me any love in my "love languages". It became an endless cycle of no one getting what they had to have from the marriage.