What if she hasn't asked for forgiveness?
My wife acknowledges that by engaging in a relationship with another man was a terrible thing to do to me, and that she feels bad that she did it to me. What she hasn't done is said that it was the wrong thing to do. What she hasn't done is ask for forgiveness.
I am willing to forgive her if she is truly sorry and wanted to move forward, but I need her to say those things and show me those things. I feel by not admitting it was wrong and by not asking for forgiveness, that she believes she did something that was ok. She is sorry it hurt me, but she is not sorry she did it. She says she wants to work on our marriage, but it is hard for me to start healing and working with her because I am not convinced that she understands how wrong it was, how it needs to end completely and immediately, and that she truly wants to work on our marriage.
Am I asking for too much?
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