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midnight81 · 03-05-2012, 08:35 PM

My husband recently took a job in Ohio.. not the best state but it pays well. This job is a permanent job for him that he plans to stay at for quite a while over 2 years. He wants to get a bunch of certifications through this company ect.

He will never have the opportunity to come home, he works 6 days and off 1. No vacation time and i live in NC so a 10 hour drive is not worth coming home for 1 day.

I am not a fan of Ohio.. however i love my family and my husband. I have asked that we come there with him. He stumbles over the idea and says sure.. then he will say no.. today i found a great house that would fit our family perfectly. The agent is willing to meet with my husband.. I call him to tell him about it and he tells me we are not coming there with him.

To my surprise he is bluntly telling me WE ARE NOT COMING.. We have 3 children ages 13, 10 and 4. i do not have a house to sell because we have already sold it and i am currently living with my family. Living with my family because he failed at keeping a steady income here and we ended up financially strapped.

I do not understand that my husband finally has a great paying job. I work in the financial industry and to be honest it wont be hard for me to find a job. We have had several ups and downs.. a lot in the past year or so.. even before he took this job 3 months ago we were not sure we were even goign to be together. But we swore we would work on things and give it our best effort.

I am scared that he has left me, he just does not have the guts to ACTAULLY leave me.. PLEASE any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

.... I have asked him to make a choice his job or his family.. he tells me im senseless and need to get my priorities right and realize he is trying to provide for his family.

03-05-2012, 08:35 PM	#1 (permalink)
midnight81 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1	Husband took job out of state, does not want me and his children to move there My husband recently took a job in Ohio.. not the best state but it pays well. This job is a permanent job for him that he plans to stay at for quite a while over 2 years. He wants to get a bunch of certifications through this company ect. He will never have the opportunity to come home, he works 6 days and off 1. No vacation time and i live in NC so a 10 hour drive is not worth coming home for 1 day. I am not a fan of Ohio.. however i love my family and my husband. I have asked that we come there with him. He stumbles over the idea and says sure.. then he will say no.. today i found a great house that would fit our family perfectly. The agent is willing to meet with my husband.. I call him to tell him about it and he tells me we are not coming there with him. To my surprise he is bluntly telling me WE ARE NOT COMING.. We have 3 children ages 13, 10 and 4. i do not have a house to sell because we have already sold it and i am currently living with my family. Living with my family because he failed at keeping a steady income here and we ended up financially strapped. I do not understand that my husband finally has a great paying job. I work in the financial industry and to be honest it wont be hard for me to find a job. We have had several ups and downs.. a lot in the past year or so.. even before he took this job 3 months ago we were not sure we were even goign to be together. But we swore we would work on things and give it our best effort. I am scared that he has left me, he just does not have the guts to ACTAULLY leave me.. PLEASE any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. .... I have asked him to make a choice his job or his family.. he tells me im senseless and need to get my priorities right and realize he is trying to provide for his family.