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aki · 03-26-2008, 12:38 PM

To GAsoccerman:
OK, I understand that opposite sex friendships can work. My husband has other female friends and that's fine. This friendship is on a whole different level. He confessed to her that he was falling in love with her. Isnt' that a bit more than you described and a bit more than your 'confident' wife might tolerate?

Since this relationship with OW started, he told me he no longer knows if he's still in love with me. And I can feel the emotional distance between us. I even asked for a 1 month complete break from OW to work on us reconnecting. Just one month. That lasted 1 week and he is now as I'm typing on a camping trip with her and her hubby eventhough tomorrow is our anniversary and he won't be with me. I'm so angry. I told him this morning who's friendship he values most between the OW and myself. He just looked at me and couldn't answer. At the end of my rope, I told him it's either her 'friendship' or me, choose. His reponse? I won't give up my friendship with her. I can't get her out of the way long enough to fix us. I'm a professional, confident woman. Have never been the jealous type. So this is a new experience for me. I didn't find out about the previous EA, though I suspected, until he admitted it during an argument about the current situation. Am I unreasonable to ask him to give the OW up for good or at least long enough to work on our relationship?

03-26-2008, 12:38 PM	#5 (permalink)
aki Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 2	Re: need advice-husband emotional affair? To GAsoccerman: OK, I understand that opposite sex friendships can work. My husband has other female friends and that's fine. This friendship is on a whole different level. He confessed to her that he was falling in love with her. Isnt' that a bit more than you described and a bit more than your 'confident' wife might tolerate? Since this relationship with OW started, he told me he no longer knows if he's still in love with me. And I can feel the emotional distance between us. I even asked for a 1 month complete break from OW to work on us reconnecting. Just one month. That lasted 1 week and he is now as I'm typing on a camping trip with her and her hubby eventhough tomorrow is our anniversary and he won't be with me. I'm so angry. I told him this morning who's friendship he values most between the OW and myself. He just looked at me and couldn't answer. At the end of my rope, I told him it's either her 'friendship' or me, choose. His reponse? I won't give up my friendship with her. I can't get her out of the way long enough to fix us. I'm a professional, confident woman. Have never been the jealous type. So this is a new experience for me. I didn't find out about the previous EA, though I suspected, until he admitted it during an argument about the current situation. Am I unreasonable to ask him to give the OW up for good or at least long enough to work on our relationship?