My Husband said it recently and I've read it a lot in different posts on this board.
However, it leaves me to wonder how many ppl are unhappy because they are unhappy with themselves as individuals. And instead of taking time out to work on their inner issue(s), they conveniently blame their unhappiness on their spouse. Because after all, that person no longer makes YOU feel all tingly and fuzzy on the inside! *Rolls eyes!*
I feel my Husband has unfairly made me responsible for HIS happiness (turned unhappiness)! But now that I sit and think, I've never known him to be a happy-go-lucky person. Content maybe.
But it only makes sense to ME, that if you're an unhappy person, being married won't change that! You've just found someone to blame for being what you already were!
I'm not perfect! And YES, I find myself unhappy with MYSELF at times. And sometimes it even makes me feel like I'm unhappy with my marriage. But I never make him responsible for it. Because in the end, I know it's an issue that I need to take up with myself!
Sure, I have issues with my marriage that I'm not happy with. But that doesn't make me unhappy with my marriage overall. I'm willing to work at those issues.
Yes, I want to be a good wife, mother, lover, companion, etc. But I can't be his SOLE source of happiness!
However, it leaves me to wonder how many ppl are unhappy because they are unhappy with themselves as individuals. And instead of taking time out to work on their inner issue(s), they conveniently blame their unhappiness on their spouse. Because after all, that person no longer makes YOU feel all tingly and fuzzy on the inside! *Rolls eyes!*
I feel my Husband has unfairly made me responsible for HIS happiness (turned unhappiness)! But now that I sit and think, I've never known him to be a happy-go-lucky person. Content maybe.
But it only makes sense to ME, that if you're an unhappy person, being married won't change that! You've just found someone to blame for being what you already were!
I'm not perfect! And YES, I find myself unhappy with MYSELF at times. And sometimes it even makes me feel like I'm unhappy with my marriage. But I never make him responsible for it. Because in the end, I know it's an issue that I need to take up with myself!
Sure, I have issues with my marriage that I'm not happy with. But that doesn't make me unhappy with my marriage overall. I'm willing to work at those issues.
Yes, I want to be a good wife, mother, lover, companion, etc. But I can't be his SOLE source of happiness!