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Tamaeric · 03-26-2008, 10:03 PM

My wife has asked me for a seperation after 9 rocky years of marriage. We got married very young, she was 18 and I was 23.
Over the last year she stated feeling numb towards our relationship, but she stated she still loves me. I asked her if this is the end and she told me she's not sure. She stated she needed space to reflect on our marriage from the outside. I agreed to give her the space and moved in with my sister. She said she is unsure of where she is as a person, that on one hand she needs to move forward to rediscover herself, but that she also worries she might regret seperating with me. I've gone thru a maturity throught out the last year, understanding what I have done wrong and how to treat her. She said she recognized the changes over the last several weeks, but she still needs time to heal and then see if she's willing to try, but she won't give me an answer. Out of respect i'll honor that. The problem i'm dealing with is my efforts did not come because she wanted to seperate, we just seperated on Saturday. The problem is my health, I have alot of anxiety, I get the shakes real bad, I have trouble eating, I breakdown constantly. She said she is very afraid of how my health is declining, but I don't know how to fix it. When I sleep it's more like a half conscience daze. I am scared for my health, as well as the prospect of loosing her which I can't really face. I don't feel suicidal at all, but I do feel alot of hopelessness. Any advice?

03-26-2008, 10:03 PM	#18 (permalink)
Tamaeric Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 1	Re: Going thru a seperation My wife has asked me for a seperation after 9 rocky years of marriage. We got married very young, she was 18 and I was 23. Over the last year she stated feeling numb towards our relationship, but she stated she still loves me. I asked her if this is the end and she told me she's not sure. She stated she needed space to reflect on our marriage from the outside. I agreed to give her the space and moved in with my sister. She said she is unsure of where she is as a person, that on one hand she needs to move forward to rediscover herself, but that she also worries she might regret seperating with me. I've gone thru a maturity throught out the last year, understanding what I have done wrong and how to treat her. She said she recognized the changes over the last several weeks, but she still needs time to heal and then see if she's willing to try, but she won't give me an answer. Out of respect i'll honor that. The problem i'm dealing with is my efforts did not come because she wanted to seperate, we just seperated on Saturday. The problem is my health, I have alot of anxiety, I get the shakes real bad, I have trouble eating, I breakdown constantly. She said she is very afraid of how my health is declining, but I don't know how to fix it. When I sleep it's more like a half conscience daze. I am scared for my health, as well as the prospect of loosing her which I can't really face. I don't feel suicidal at all, but I do feel alot of hopelessness. Any advice?