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BrokenFrag · 03-27-2008, 05:51 AM

Swedish, I think you hit it exactly on the head. I definitely view it as a full betrayal of our vows and she views it as a close call. I told her that I forgave her completely last night, without her asking. Forgiveness does not need to have strings attached. However, rebuilding the trust will be much, much harder. I still don't know the full nature of their relationship and I don't know if I want to know. I don't know if that will make me feel better or worse about our chances to move forward. Blind faith and trust in her led me to the pain I feel.

She still says she wants to work on her marriage, but she, unlike your husband, has not said that she will try to spend the rest of her life building that trust. Maybe she is still just instinctively trying to protect herself from feeling the full effect of what she has done.

Were there things that you did and your husband did to work on the trust? As you said, I won't ever be fully comfortable until either my wife or her coworker leaves their branch. If they had to travel together, which is a distinct possibility, I dont' know what I'd do.

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BrokenFrag Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 81	Re: What if she hasn't asked for forgiveness? Swedish, I think you hit it exactly on the head. I definitely view it as a full betrayal of our vows and she views it as a close call. I told her that I forgave her completely last night, without her asking. Forgiveness does not need to have strings attached. However, rebuilding the trust will be much, much harder. I still don't know the full nature of their relationship and I don't know if I want to know. I don't know if that will make me feel better or worse about our chances to move forward. Blind faith and trust in her led me to the pain I feel. She still says she wants to work on her marriage, but she, unlike your husband, has not said that she will try to spend the rest of her life building that trust. Maybe she is still just instinctively trying to protect herself from feeling the full effect of what she has done. Were there things that you did and your husband did to work on the trust? As you said, I won't ever be fully comfortable until either my wife or her coworker leaves their branch. If they had to travel together, which is a distinct possibility, I dont' know what I'd do.