Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - She cheated. I cheated. Not sure where to go from here.

JokesOnMe · 03-07-2012, 09:15 PM

No we don't have an open marriage. It would bother me if she was having another affair. It might sound hypocritical (and it probably is) but the idea of sharing my wife is fairly repulsive to me. That is why I had such a hard time dealing with the affair. It would break me if I knew she was having an affair after proclaiming it would never ever happen again. And I have access to her passwords and phone. There are zero signs of an affair now.

I have started to broach the subject of her working again but we are still up in the air about the whole baby thing. I do want a son and financially we are at a good point now. Obviously maritally we are not. We both are in our early/mid 30s so ideally we would want to have him in the next couple years. This is more so what I was looking for guidance on. Would it be incredibly dumb to have another child in our situation?

03-07-2012, 09:15 PM	#29 (permalink)
JokesOnMe Registered User Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 24	Re: She cheated. I cheated. Not sure where to go from here. No we don't have an open marriage. It would bother me if she was having another affair. It might sound hypocritical (and it probably is) but the idea of sharing my wife is fairly repulsive to me. That is why I had such a hard time dealing with the affair. It would break me if I knew she was having an affair after proclaiming it would never ever happen again. And I have access to her passwords and phone. There are zero signs of an affair now. I have started to broach the subject of her working again but we are still up in the air about the whole baby thing. I do want a son and financially we are at a good point now. Obviously maritally we are not. We both are in our early/mid 30s so ideally we would want to have him in the next couple years. This is more so what I was looking for guidance on. Would it be incredibly dumb to have another child in our situation?