Originally Posted by FirstYearDown
My father did not stop my mother and I was angry with him for years.
Now I realize that he was a victim too, just like his children were.
What you went through was horrendous.
How do you plan on having a happier life from now on? What does your therapist tell you?
Yes, I see now that she was as afraid of that bastard as we kids were. She never participated in any of the beatings or yelling, she just hung back hoping not to get hit with any schrapnel. I know she was young when she had us, but aren't mothers supposed to protect their kids and only themselves? Victim or no, PROTECT THE LITTLE ONES.
My life is okay right now, for other reasons, I try to stay away from my family as much as I can. My shrink said that my father will never change and since I will never change, there is little chance of a relationship which is fine by me. I tried to get my mother to come to counseling with me and just wouldn't do it.