Originally Posted by Toffer
I now am also suspicious of the "spend 15 hours a week with your wife doing non-sexual touch things". We probably get close to that with most of it happening on the weekends yet little else happens beyond.
I understand that the 15 hours is quality time with your spouse, not just sitting next to each other slack jawed while the TV drones on in front of you.
To me, that is washing and drying dishes or folding clothes together while just the two of us talk, or playing a game, or even watching and discussing the news (I love being able to pause the TV to talk about it). My wife and I need time to interact with each other as adults, not as mom and dad.
I also think that you should add non-initiating sexual touch to non-sexual touch. Things like coming up behind her and kissing her neck while she is making dinner, or getting a nice grinding hug before work. These touches are sexual (and show that she is desired by you) but are non-initiating, in that there is no immediate plans for sex. I think these sort of touches are just as critical as the hand on the back or holding hands that have no sexual overtones.