Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - What if she hasn't asked for forgiveness?

swedish · 03-27-2008, 02:19 PM

Based on what you said, I think I would focus a conversation with her around what needs he is fulfilling and see if you can fill those voids yourself. Whatever is attracting him to her is missing for her within your marriage.

Also, regarding counseling, we did not go. I went to a counselor on my own with the idea that he would eventually join me but the counselor did not see any reason for it. Basically, she said since we both acknowledged our part in where our marriage went wrong and both were still in love with one another and willing to make changes (especially when I told her what he was doing to rebuild trust) that she saw no need to see us both.

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swedish Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Near Chicago Posts: 1,192	Re: What if she hasn't asked for forgiveness? Based on what you said, I think I would focus a conversation with her around what needs he is fulfilling and see if you can fill those voids yourself. Whatever is attracting him to her is missing for her within your marriage. Also, regarding counseling, we did not go. I went to a counselor on my own with the idea that he would eventually join me but the counselor did not see any reason for it. Basically, she said since we both acknowledged our part in where our marriage went wrong and both were still in love with one another and willing to make changes (especially when I told her what he was doing to rebuild trust) that she saw no need to see us both.