Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - I wrote this to my husband, as a guy what do you think

svsrob · 03-27-2008, 11:38 AM

1) the move. It would seem you both agreed even if you did so begrudgenly. However, what would the life had been like with out his job in denver. What happens when you lost that house and he couldn't pay for food? Leaving friends and family is no doubts hard. If you are outgoing enough why not look for ways to make friends in the area?

I agreed if he agreed to meet my needs, I had a job there in Denver, I told him something was wrong with me and I needed to get it sorted out. He had two offers one where we did not have to move, he took this one because it is with his dream company. He now lies and says he never had another offer.

2) Doctors ~ Correct me if I am wrong but isn't OH, WV and NY all within driving distance from where you live even if you have to make a day of it it is worth traveling to see a specialist. I use to trave two hours one way to see one every six months.

I am new to this area, I have no problem driving, I have driven two hours out of the way, to be told they were not prepared to deal with my complaints. I have contacted the Pittsburgh School of Medicine for some recommendations and that worked. I have a toddler and trying to haul her, and do everything else when you feel like you have the flu on a constant basis sucks period. I have made some friends, however between doctors visits, preschool and my new job, I have little time to myself or to make new friends. I am not feeling well and won't be able to start treatment for five weeks.

3) Touch ~ I think you need you revisit his touch. He say 90% are just innocent. Maybe if you back up and see every time he hugs you before he leaves or kisses you hello, a back rub during a movie etc.

The problem is my husband can be selfish, and I see it in his family as well. I am tired and instead of helping make my life easier he treats me like I should be some sort of super woman. He can't even get my daughter dressed when he looks after her, the t.v. is more important. I have to write down everything for him to do while I work two nights a week. It is ridiculous. He does only touch me when he wants sex, I held his hand the other night, he was like oh this is nice, he always wants me to do date night, cook, make things romantic, if it takes energy, he wants me to do it. He told me that he works and that should be enough. I work too, and still have to maintain the house, he should help. period.

03-27-2008, 11:38 AM	#11 (permalink)
svsrob Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 6	Re: I wrote this to my husband, as a guy what do you think 1) the move. It would seem you both agreed even if you did so begrudgenly. However, what would the life had been like with out his job in denver. What happens when you lost that house and he couldn't pay for food? Leaving friends and family is no doubts hard. If you are outgoing enough why not look for ways to make friends in the area? I agreed if he agreed to meet my needs, I had a job there in Denver, I told him something was wrong with me and I needed to get it sorted out. He had two offers one where we did not have to move, he took this one because it is with his dream company. He now lies and says he never had another offer. 2) Doctors ~ Correct me if I am wrong but isn't OH, WV and NY all within driving distance from where you live even if you have to make a day of it it is worth traveling to see a specialist. I use to trave two hours one way to see one every six months. I am new to this area, I have no problem driving, I have driven two hours out of the way, to be told they were not prepared to deal with my complaints. I have contacted the Pittsburgh School of Medicine for some recommendations and that worked. I have a toddler and trying to haul her, and do everything else when you feel like you have the flu on a constant basis sucks period. I have made some friends, however between doctors visits, preschool and my new job, I have little time to myself or to make new friends. I am not feeling well and won't be able to start treatment for five weeks. 3) Touch ~ I think you need you revisit his touch. He say 90% are just innocent. Maybe if you back up and see every time he hugs you before he leaves or kisses you hello, a back rub during a movie etc. The problem is my husband can be selfish, and I see it in his family as well. I am tired and instead of helping make my life easier he treats me like I should be some sort of super woman. He can't even get my daughter dressed when he looks after her, the t.v. is more important. I have to write down everything for him to do while I work two nights a week. It is ridiculous. He does only touch me when he wants sex, I held his hand the other night, he was like oh this is nice, he always wants me to do date night, cook, make things romantic, if it takes energy, he wants me to do it. He told me that he works and that should be enough. I work too, and still have to maintain the house, he should help. period.