Originally Posted by Jayb

More of seeking advice on how to deal with the finalization of divorce.

I have felt as though once the paperwork is signed, then my wife will immediately start dating, ignoring me, feel relief, and our entire relationship (15 years) will be written off.

I felt like my H has already done this since he got an apt, it didn't take a piece of paper to feel like that.
I read your story on the reconciliation board and you gave me hope. I don't think a date will matter it is a mindset of when they are 'done' with us that is painful. Think about it for now... she is working w/ you even if she thinks she is just going through the motions, maybe something will trigger her into really giving this a go.
I am trying to think of a quote or where I read it... Maybe Homer McDonald or something like that but you can't let your emotions rule your brain (rebt).

These feelings have stirred my desperation in somehow saving our marriage, because I let my emotions define that day as the day we are OVER, no point of return.