Swan

I am in a similar situation to True Blue. I learnt my husband of 29years cheated on me a yr & 3 mths ago with another woman old enough to be his daughter. As if what he did wasn't bad enough, it was really hurtful that she was so much younger. I couldn't believe I could actually bring myself to hate him after what he did but I did. The grief was something I had never experienced with anyone before, not even members of my family that has died. I was very much alone with my grief. I don't think I can ever forgive him because I gave up so much for this man and it made me feel so studpid and angry that I didn't listen to my heart. I find it difficult to understand how can someone claims he loves you very much and didn't do enough to stop himself from making the wrong choicesps. How pathetic is it to hear him say 'I didn't plan it, it just happened". Yes, I'm still in pain, for how long I'm not sure. We're still together and have been receiving counselling eversince because I'm trying to find answers whereas he'd rather bury what's happened. I don't know if I still love him or in love with him but I know I don't feel the same about him like before. Issues were beginning to develop in our relationship 2 yrs before the affair. I removed my wedding ring the day I found out because when he put that ring on my finger, he made a sacred vow to me in the eyes of God. Since he broke his vows, there's no significance in my wearing my ring anymore. There have been many occasions we both felt it may be best to go our separate ways. But for the moment, I'm still searching for answers which he has not given me. How can anyone get over something as serious as this?

Swan