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LOL... yep stuff him!
I think that your wanting sex with him is just your wanting sex... we all have our needs. And as you have said, some part of you hates that you have to divorce him and that you cannot have a good marriage. That part of you wants to pretend there is a good marriage. But you need to keep that part under check.
Have you considered contacting the OW and tell her that she can have him.... for her to please come get him and have him live with her? Also she might offer you more concrete evidence so that she can finally have him.
If he goes off the handle and becomes threatening, you might want to call the police. They might just help you get a restraining order and thus he could not live in the same home with you.