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hurtandc0nfused · 03-10-2012, 04:43 PM

I am curious what everyone thinks about this scenario - My wife has an infatuation with a woman with whom she works - this other woman works at a different location than my wife, but they still see each other a couple of times a week. They occasionally text as well.

I was looking at my wife's phone today and noticed several text messages from a friend where they were discussing this infatuation and whether or not my wife should do anything about it or go on a date with this other woman.

My question is this - what is everyone's thoughts on whether or not just thinking about going on a date with this other woman is considered cheating on me. She does not know that I am aware of her text messages. We have discussed her thoughts on other women and how she is only attracted to other women at the moment. We are seeing an MC to see if we can work through this, but it seems to me that she no longer wants to work on the marriage if she is considering going on a date or seeing this other woman anywhere other than at work.

Thoughts?

03-10-2012, 04:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
hurtandc0nfused Registered User Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Salt Lake City Posts: 19	Is it cheating when... I am curious what everyone thinks about this scenario - My wife has an infatuation with a woman with whom she works - this other woman works at a different location than my wife, but they still see each other a couple of times a week. They occasionally text as well. I was looking at my wife's phone today and noticed several text messages from a friend where they were discussing this infatuation and whether or not my wife should do anything about it or go on a date with this other woman. My question is this - what is everyone's thoughts on whether or not just thinking about going on a date with this other woman is considered cheating on me. She does not know that I am aware of her text messages. We have discussed her thoughts on other women and how she is only attracted to other women at the moment. We are seeing an MC to see if we can work through this, but it seems to me that she no longer wants to work on the marriage if she is considering going on a date or seeing this other woman anywhere other than at work. Thoughts?