swedish

I'm sorry to hear she has not stopped contact with him. I agree and understand why that is a deal breaker for you as far as trying to work on your marriage. There must be something very alluring about the thought of a new relationship where you start out fresh and have those tingling feelings, and working on your marriage sounds (and is) 'work'. But those tingling feelings do wear off and it doesn't matter who the other person is, at some point you get comfortable and little things start bugging you which can turn into big things and you end up in the same place with a different person. If she's not willing to work on your marriage, she will have the same issues with any other relationship eventually, so really there is so much more for her to lose than to gain here. But I know I am just preaching to the choir...just wanted you to know I'm glad you are standing your ground on this.