No kids involved. We're both young and healthy.
He's had tons of jobs, ran out of places to work in this city. w2's- i usually have one and he has 5-7 per year. He was unemployed for about three months and then started blaming it on me. Because I stopped giving him rides everywhere. The last car he had he took on credit which i told him not to do. completely neglected its maintenance and just barely paid it off when it took a crap. i've not been able to put enough gas in my tank to even get myself to work, let alone drive him around town for a job he may not even keep for more than a month and he doesn't want to understand that. And when he does work he spends more money than he makes anyways and I have to back it all up. I separated from him, i'm living with a girl I used to work with. I wont tell him where i live because he does break my things when he's angry and that costs even more. Now, he lives with his grandma and does not plan on trying at all to get the ball rolling again.
through it all it has been extremely painful for me with and without him. besides him being a financial burden, he was the one thing i had a reason to wake up for and come home to. I've been with him for 8 years. It's a major change and I'm breaking down more and more every night without him and becoming lonely. I don't even want to be with anyone else, i am deeply in love with him and it feels worse than a stab in the chest. i just want him to start taking care of himself. thats all!
i made a promise to myself to not get back with him until he picks himself up. but i'm not sure where i should draw the line as to it being ok to get back with him. My love for him is blinding me to look at this in a logical way. Should i get back with him once he has a job and his own place? or if he atleast has kept a job. I don't want to have to wait years and years.... should i even get back with him at all... i really want to, i don't think i could possibly tear myself away from him, but i don't want to turn into more of a mother figure than a wife.
I would really lose it if i knew i would just have to completely leave him. I feel a love for him that is just too deep to throw away and forget. We're both tearing each other apart though, everyday he calls me and tells me he loves me and I do the same... can't help it.
Can't see through my fog, looking for advice from an outside source, for a more logical outlook on this.
He's had tons of jobs, ran out of places to work in this city. w2's- i usually have one and he has 5-7 per year. He was unemployed for about three months and then started blaming it on me. Because I stopped giving him rides everywhere. The last car he had he took on credit which i told him not to do. completely neglected its maintenance and just barely paid it off when it took a crap. i've not been able to put enough gas in my tank to even get myself to work, let alone drive him around town for a job he may not even keep for more than a month and he doesn't want to understand that. And when he does work he spends more money than he makes anyways and I have to back it all up. I separated from him, i'm living with a girl I used to work with. I wont tell him where i live because he does break my things when he's angry and that costs even more. Now, he lives with his grandma and does not plan on trying at all to get the ball rolling again.
through it all it has been extremely painful for me with and without him. besides him being a financial burden, he was the one thing i had a reason to wake up for and come home to. I've been with him for 8 years. It's a major change and I'm breaking down more and more every night without him and becoming lonely. I don't even want to be with anyone else, i am deeply in love with him and it feels worse than a stab in the chest. i just want him to start taking care of himself. thats all!
i made a promise to myself to not get back with him until he picks himself up. but i'm not sure where i should draw the line as to it being ok to get back with him. My love for him is blinding me to look at this in a logical way. Should i get back with him once he has a job and his own place? or if he atleast has kept a job. I don't want to have to wait years and years.... should i even get back with him at all... i really want to, i don't think i could possibly tear myself away from him, but i don't want to turn into more of a mother figure than a wife.
I would really lose it if i knew i would just have to completely leave him. I feel a love for him that is just too deep to throw away and forget. We're both tearing each other apart though, everyday he calls me and tells me he loves me and I do the same... can't help it.
Can't see through my fog, looking for advice from an outside source, for a more logical outlook on this.