Originally Posted by Paulination
She hasn't found jack. This guy is an unemployed geek living with mommy who's whole life revolves aroung FB and soccer.
I'm embarrassed that I even considered she could possibly have an EA with him. She is also embarrased that I could even think that and ofcourse once again, I look like a pathetic ba$tard for even suggesting it.
All it ended up doing was insult my wife and drop me down a number on my sex rank which still places me at least 3 above his.
I don't agree. There are a number of stories here about women who have affaired down. You can't judge the possibility solely on how you perceive the other man.
Saying all of that, I want to be clear that I have no idea if she is in an EA or not. While it sounds like she is not, it does look like she is on the cusp of one. She is doing things (secret chats late at night with another man) that can only lead to no good. Even without an EA going on, these are issues and behaviors that you need to address. Secrets like that are not good for spouses. To me, this is part of the current issues with your wife, so it is critical that you don't dismiss them merely because your wife is not in an EA.