Originally Posted by BrokenFrag

We are approaching 8 years in July, and I thought things were wonderful. I recognize that we definitely lost focus on connecting as much as we used to, but I didn't have a clue things had gotten so bad that she needed to have an emotional affair (assuming she has told me the truth about how far they went). I was blindsided by all this.

And counseling is definitely on the agenda. We are trying to make sure we find a counselor that will help us find solutions. I have talked and heard from a lot of married and divorced people who have said that counseling can often times make things worse depending on what they are focused on.