Yes, move on.
My ex was very abusive verbally. To some point physically. I lived a year in pure hell. I left. I'm very strong in standing up for myself. I didn't let anyone bring me down no matter how many times they criticized me or told me how worthless I was. To this day he still calls me worthless. I could care less what he thinks.
He never recognized his abuse, he blames everything on everyone else. I should of known better when he told my parents before we married that he has no respect for women. This includes his own children. He clearly has serious issues.
It didn't take long to disconnect from my ex h. I moved out and filed for divorce right away. His gf moved in 3 days after I left, but he had it in his mind I was coming back. I never ever had any intentions of reconciling with him. The thought of it made me sick for what he had done.
If your wife says she's moved on, she's telling the truth. I doubt she'll get back together with you. The damage is done. Even if you got back together, what are the chances of you falling in the same patterns? I do think it's best to start fresh.
It's a very good thing you sought help for your actions. In my exes case, his abuse worsened over the years. His wife puts up with it.