Originally Posted by Tall Average Guy

I would suggest that you not do that. Detach from her across the board, working only on things dealing with your children. she has chosen to no longer be your wife. I strongly suspect she is still in contact with either the original other man or a second one.

She wants to eat her cake and yet still have it right now - her exploring other relationships, you there as a backup to provide emotional support, the illusion that the family is still intact so she is not hurting the kids and her getting to not be the bad person by going through MC.

Continue to work on yourself, and let her go. I am sorry you are going through this and wish you the best.