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NotSoSureYet · 03-15-2012, 02:45 PM

I am officially going to be D in 27 days. I have made it through the toughest year of my life and the weight that is lifting from my shoulders is almost gone! Except for this. Once I initiated the D, my H didn't see the reasons yet. Well, about 6 months into the process the light bulb went off in his head and he knew his actions had been the biggest contributor to our demise. (it's not ALL his fault, but when I would bring up our issues, he took it as me *****ing/nagging). So now, he wants to change his lifestyle and become a family man, good husband, partner, father, etc.....Well, I told him that his turnaround almost feels like an act. I really don't think it is an act though. he has a good heart, but for how long had he gone and not gave 2 s***'s about anyone but himself?? And now I'm supposed to just accept it and it all be ok? No. I can't get myself past that wall now. We get along fine for the most part (other than when he is super nosy and 20 questioning me).
Anyone else seen a complete turnaround in a spouse that was totally TRUE??!
Thanks everyone. I love this site!!

03-15-2012, 02:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
NotSoSureYet Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 102	Any TRUE turnarounds I am officially going to be D in 27 days. I have made it through the toughest year of my life and the weight that is lifting from my shoulders is almost gone! Except for this. Once I initiated the D, my H didn't see the reasons yet. Well, about 6 months into the process the light bulb went off in his head and he knew his actions had been the biggest contributor to our demise. (it's not ALL his fault, but when I would bring up our issues, he took it as me ***ing/nagging). So now, he wants to change his lifestyle and become a family man, good husband, partner, father, etc.....Well, I told him that his turnaround almost feels like an act. I really don't think it is an act though. he has a good heart, but for how long had he gone and not gave 2 s*'s about anyone but himself?? And now I'm supposed to just accept it and it all be ok? No. I can't get myself past that wall now. We get along fine for the most part (other than when he is super nosy and 20 questioning me). Anyone else seen a complete turnaround in a spouse that was totally TRUE??! Thanks everyone. I love this site!!