| | Re: Learned something new in counseling today
I did want this before his affair. I agree that it's not something that makes me happy that he says this.
My Husband is a very very unusual man. I'm not trying to make any excuses for him, but he says truthed jokingly. I never understood him before our seperation.
The counselor asked if he loved me just the way I am because I live him the way he is. He said hell yah I love her with all my heart.
My Husband is very self conscious about his body way way more than he was before our seperation. No matter what I say it seems to not make him feel better. He has a little bit of a gut and he's not built like he wants to be. He's never been like a model when I met him. He is a construction pipe fitter and he does have muscles and it's enough for me.
Before our seperation he did encourage me to Make a consultation appt for boobs. I guess he must have kept it a secret what bigger boobs really meant to him. I thought it was just me who wanted them. I guess he had a fantasy that he kept secret just like I kept secret my sexual fantasys from him.
It is true the kids did ruin them. I was a tight A size before with smaller nipples. Now I'm a stretched A size with much larger nipples. During pregnancy and breast feeding they stretched to a C to D size. So now I want to increase thier size to a solid C.
My husband was in no way trying to make me feel bad. I do wish he could tell me he is attracted to my boobs the way they are, but obviously he can't for some reason.
Maybe he sees them now as more for the kids than as a sexual object.
My wanting the boobs is because I want to have more of a variety of tops and dresses to wear. I also see my boobs as purely sexual now that we are done having kids.
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