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Just Tired Of It All · 03-15-2012, 10:16 PM

To tell you the truth, I think he can turn it on and off like a switch. Meaning, used to if I "brought" it up, he would really fly off the handle and say, Im moving out I cant take this, your pushing me away, Im going to leave and never come back, your going to be alone, Im tired of you rubbing it in my face, stabbing me over and over again. Yes he played the whole wounded poor me drama on me.

Well that has stopped, now it is the nagging, so he calls it. Not how I see it. I see it as not allowing the rug sweeping. Now he recovers pretty quickly and just starts talking normally, but he gets to bypass the issue I was trying to resolve, and that isnt setting well with me, I dont want to argue or nag or *****. I just dont know how to make him understand.

And I think that the only reason why he stopped, SO FAR not saying he wont try it again, the im moving out, you will be left alone crap with me is because I look at him and say go ahead, its not the first time but it will be your last time. And the you will be alone, well I told him, time will tell, his reply "no you be all alone with no one" I looked him straight in the eyes and told him, there is alot of men out there, alot of men who would love to have a women like me, why would you think I would be alone, I can find somone else. YOU DID... SO I KNOW I CAN.. he just stood there stunned.. then said I DID NOT..

The more I stand my ground, the more lame he gets, Now its nagging.. although he is recovering quickly, and not as "PUSHY" about it. I just dont know how to get thru his thick head that I got NEEDS he needs to meet. Like I said, its sad that I feel its going to be me giving him the whole "I love you but Im not in love with you" speech. I dont want it to get to that point, so I am looking for ways to knock some sense in his thick skull..

I just dont want to settle, and thats what it feels like to me. Its been a battle to get to where we are, but there is still a war going on. And what happens in a war, you either win the war or surrender.. so whats my plan? Whats my options? Yeah, see my point? His "trying" but not really "trying" or atleast not to wear I am confident that we can do this. Although if you were to ask him, he would say, its great were okay we love eachother and its fine.. UHGGGGGG

03-15-2012, 10:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
Just Tired Of It All Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: USA Posts: 359	Re: Nagging? When you try to discusse how you feel, but it just becomes and argument. To tell you the truth, I think he can turn it on and off like a switch. Meaning, used to if I "brought" it up, he would really fly off the handle and say, Im moving out I cant take this, your pushing me away, Im going to leave and never come back, your going to be alone, Im tired of you rubbing it in my face, stabbing me over and over again. Yes he played the whole wounded poor me drama on me. Well that has stopped, now it is the nagging, so he calls it. Not how I see it. I see it as not allowing the rug sweeping. Now he recovers pretty quickly and just starts talking normally, but he gets to bypass the issue I was trying to resolve, and that isnt setting well with me, I dont want to argue or nag or *****. I just dont know how to make him understand. And I think that the only reason why he stopped, SO FAR not saying he wont try it again, the im moving out, you will be left alone crap with me is because I look at him and say go ahead, its not the first time but it will be your last time. And the you will be alone, well I told him, time will tell, his reply "no you be all alone with no one" I looked him straight in the eyes and told him, there is alot of men out there, alot of men who would love to have a women like me, why would you think I would be alone, I can find somone else. YOU DID... SO I KNOW I CAN.. he just stood there stunned.. then said I DID NOT.. The more I stand my ground, the more lame he gets, Now its nagging.. although he is recovering quickly, and not as "PUSHY" about it. I just dont know how to get thru his thick head that I got NEEDS he needs to meet. Like I said, its sad that I feel its going to be me giving him the whole "I love you but Im not in love with you" speech. I dont want it to get to that point, so I am looking for ways to knock some sense in his thick skull.. I just dont want to settle, and thats what it feels like to me. Its been a battle to get to where we are, but there is still a war going on. And what happens in a war, you either win the war or surrender.. so whats my plan? Whats my options? Yeah, see my point? His "trying" but not really "trying" or atleast not to wear I am confident that we can do this. Although if you were to ask him, he would say, its great were okay we love eachother and its fine.. UHGGGGGG