mollyL

I can only speak for myself, but regarding your post: Did she really have affairs with all these guys or do you just think so? The answers I think have to be different depending on your answer.
If no is the answer: So your wife has a "type". We all have personal preferences. Your wife wants to make love? Isn't that what you want in the first place? Make love and best wishes to you.
If yes is the answer: Can you guys get over this, or is your hurt too deep? You think she even fantasizes about her "type", even when making love to you? Your hurt is extremely deep; if she can't help you mend things, maybe this isn't where you should be.