Kenya26

Ok...I am going to come at this topic objectively. Unlike the other repliers, I feel that your wife comes first b/c I believe in the Bible and it says so. However, her behavior and attitude towards your other children is not healthy for them or you. It is not fair to make a person choose between their kids and their marriage. It sounds like she is allowing her strong dislike for this other woman to overshadow her better sense of judgement. Sometimes we women can do that and we have to be careful of that. Your other children are a constant reminder to her of your past with this other woman that had the opportunity to have you and your children before she did. Sometimes it is hard to deal with your spouses past, and it seems like she is a little insecure. I don't think you need a divorce just yet, but you guys do need counseling right away, and you have to put your foot down a little more and suffer the consequences associated with that. You are the man in your home and as long as you are not disrespected your wife by seeing this other woman, you having a relationship with your children should be allowed. I would not snick around, but instead tell her what you are doing with your children, invite her and deal with the blow up later. It is worth it for your children. I am married to a man who was previously married and I think I know a little bit about what she is feeling. It is hard to always deal with someones past when you are trying to form a future with them. Everyone can say "divorce her, put your kids first, she should be understanding and accepting". But until you have actually been in a similar situation you can't rightfully judge her state of mind and her heart.

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Kenya26