| | Re: Nagging? When you try to discusse how you feel, but it just becomes and argument.
Hi Tired, I saw your post on Looking, I guess you have read mine too? I believe you are in exactly the same situation as her and I. He won't talk because there is something he is hiding. Either the full extent of it all or the continuation of the affair. And the only way to get to the truth, in my opinion, is to accept it is over. Plan accordingly, and he will either meet your needs and come absolutely clean or he will run/happily leave.
Your husbands patterns of behaviour are almost identical to my man's (and Looking). My man started off with the anger and defensiveness and walking out, finishing our relationship. All a rue to get me to keep quiet and leave bringing it up. Then as time went on and I became insistent that I needed to talk, his anger got a little less, but still there. I then got to the point of being happy to finish and he has started talking more. Tho still not without the anger and defensiveness, he just keeps a check on it better. Like your man, he finishes being angry very swiftly and is back to being lovely again. I am now at the point where I will take his flannel no longer, I am not sure I even want to know the full extent of it anymore. I know what I think, but to have the real and truthful version I believe will just be too hurtful after all I have been through with him. I just can't take the fact that I have given my all to a man who has so magnificently bullshi**ed me and used me and manipulated me. I know he now loves me, I don't believe their relationship continues at the moment, but I really don't know what to think anymore. Other than that I have been totally sh*t on from a very great height. More fool him for treating me this way because he will lose out. I have loved him like no other, and I have been totally dedicated to him, and I know he adores me, he is now and has been for a while totally dedicated to me. I am not unattractive and will not have any great trouble finding someone else. It is just such a terrible terrible shame because he is (without THE issue taken into account) my absolute perfect man.