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MrsLV · 08-13-2007, 09:31 AM

When I met my husband and we first began "talking", I told him what I was looking for in a man and one of those things was marriage. I no longer wanted to get exhausted in the whole 'dating' thing, and had learned that within the first week of talking to all of my previous boyfriends, everything I needed to know I knew-except for the things that they didn't offer upfront and I failed to ask about. This time I asked all the questions that I needed to ask, and so did he. We talked for a week, went out on two 'hangout' dates, and within that next week, he proposed and I said yes. One month later we were married, and last week we had our 1 month anniversary. So I suppose I went in making sure he was husband material, because i've dated TOO MUCH in the past , so dating was over-rated for me. And the fact that i'm 34, I wanted to go ahead and work on the "rest of our lives" part of relationships.
It's been lovely. We are very close. We are very much in love. I suppose a great deal of it was because we went into the relationship already knowing that we weren't seeking dates, but life partners. So everything we put into the relationship was based on that goal (family merging, budgeting, lifestyle actions and plans, rules, faith and church attendance, career goals, etc). It was like doing a 24/7 course of "how to live life", and for the month that we studied our life, we took this very seriously. By the time we went to the reverand for our pre-marital counseling session (we had to have a least one, since this would be a rush wedding), the reverand said he's not met too many couples that knew each other as well as we did, and he could tell we were right for each other and would make it, so he aggreed to marry us.
Why the rush? Why not! Life is too short. We're both 34, so I figure if we're lucky, we'll have at least forty years together. Each year that passes by would be one less. And when I think of all the past "long term" relationships that I had that went absolutly NO WHERE, it makes me mad that I WAISTED all that time...but then again, I suppose those past experiences made me who I am.
Wanna know the funniest thing? We met at the public transportation railway-by chance he said hello and asked me for my number, and though I don't normally give out my number, I took a chance after hesitating for a bit until he said "you nevr know, you may be walking away from your future if you don't give me your number"....so I guess he had me at "hello".

08-13-2007, 09:31 AM	#4 (permalink)
MrsLV Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 57	Re: Can you date.... When I met my husband and we first began "talking", I told him what I was looking for in a man and one of those things was marriage. I no longer wanted to get exhausted in the whole 'dating' thing, and had learned that within the first week of talking to all of my previous boyfriends, everything I needed to know I knew-except for the things that they didn't offer upfront and I failed to ask about. This time I asked all the questions that I needed to ask, and so did he. We talked for a week, went out on two 'hangout' dates, and within that next week, he proposed and I said yes. One month later we were married, and last week we had our 1 month anniversary. So I suppose I went in making sure he was husband material, because i've dated TOO MUCH in the past , so dating was over-rated for me. And the fact that i'm 34, I wanted to go ahead and work on the "rest of our lives" part of relationships. It's been lovely. We are very close. We are very much in love. I suppose a great deal of it was because we went into the relationship already knowing that we weren't seeking dates, but life partners. So everything we put into the relationship was based on that goal (family merging, budgeting, lifestyle actions and plans, rules, faith and church attendance, career goals, etc). It was like doing a 24/7 course of "how to live life", and for the month that we studied our life, we took this very seriously. By the time we went to the reverand for our pre-marital counseling session (we had to have a least one, since this would be a rush wedding), the reverand said he's not met too many couples that knew each other as well as we did, and he could tell we were right for each other and would make it, so he aggreed to marry us. Why the rush? Why not! Life is too short. We're both 34, so I figure if we're lucky, we'll have at least forty years together. Each year that passes by would be one less. And when I think of all the past "long term" relationships that I had that went absolutly NO WHERE, it makes me mad that I WAISTED all that time...but then again, I suppose those past experiences made me who I am. Wanna know the funniest thing? We met at the public transportation railway-by chance he said hello and asked me for my number, and though I don't normally give out my number, I took a chance after hesitating for a bit until he said "you nevr know, you may be walking away from your future if you don't give me your number"....so I guess he had me at "hello". __________________ Seek God BEFORE "all else fails", not WHEN "all else fails".