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Old 03-18-2012, 01:36 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Default Re: Nagging? When you try to discusse how you feel, but it just becomes and argument.
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Originally Posted by AngryandUsed View Post
That is the way cheaters are.

To know the truth from the cheaters, you need a lot of patience. Win their confidence (?). They need assurance that you wont get angry, move out, expose them etc. etc.

Coming to your post, I think he is just brushing aside your questions. Sit him down, tell him politely and firmly, that you need answers for all your questions. Leave some gap in time, let this get into him.

I must also tell you, typically, truth does not come out in one go. You may need to repeat your sittings.

Sorry, it is a hard work. Sometimes, draining.
I have done all this. I have asked him in a kindly way, a loving way, I have made him feel safe, I have been angry and done it in a 'I have had enough' way, but he continues with the flannel. I have worked very very hard. But I have now had enough.
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