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laidback · 03-18-2012, 06:14 PM

I have a friend and we've been friends for over 5 years. I'll call her Jane. We hang out with 5 or 6 other friends, whom I've also known for a long time. But in the last year or so, every time somebody in our group of friends decides to date, Jane, for some reason, tries to interfere in the relationship and break them up, i.e., she kisses the guy, stops speaking to the girl, invites the guy over to her house late at night.
I think that she does this because she has low self-esteem that is hurt whenever she sees somebody in a healthy relationship. What Jane does causes unnecessary drama between us. I don't really speak to her much anymore, but some of the my other friends don't want to exclude her. They bring up the point that Jane still has feelings, even if she uses them to manipulate people.
I don't think that this is how friends should act. How can I either show her how she's hurting the rest of us or convince my other friends that she has not been acting like a friend?

03-18-2012, 06:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
laidback Registered User Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1	Interfering "Friend" I have a friend and we've been friends for over 5 years. I'll call her Jane. We hang out with 5 or 6 other friends, whom I've also known for a long time. But in the last year or so, every time somebody in our group of friends decides to date, Jane, for some reason, tries to interfere in the relationship and break them up, i.e., she kisses the guy, stops speaking to the girl, invites the guy over to her house late at night. I think that she does this because she has low self-esteem that is hurt whenever she sees somebody in a healthy relationship. What Jane does causes unnecessary drama between us. I don't really speak to her much anymore, but some of the my other friends don't want to exclude her. They bring up the point that Jane still has feelings, even if she uses them to manipulate people. I don't think that this is how friends should act. How can I either show her how she's hurting the rest of us or convince my other friends that she has not been acting like a friend?