Re: He says he's not in love anymore
I understand your concern and I do believe that the attitude you both bring to counseling will determine if it is going to bring you together again or if you are simply wasting your time and money.
For counseling to work you both need to decide what you hope to achieve and whether your expectations are similar. You both need to participate completely in counseling and open your minds to learning something new. Unless you are both honest about your attitude to counseling and what you hope to achieve, it is unlikely to help.
Counseling is not about hoping your partner will change. It is not about one being right and the other wrong. To enter counseling believing your partner needs to change is counter-productive to the process.
You are both part of the marriage and you both need to allow the counseling to help you learn and grow.
I sincerely wish you both luck.
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