Originally Posted by Lon
MM, just catching up on your thread and after reading this I skimmed the rest so I could reply...
my advice: GO TO BED WITH YOUR WIFE EVERY NIGHT!!!
the reason for my advice: I know firsthand that not sharing the bed unglues the bond a H and W have, having that time together, being the last person each one sees before falling asleep and the first when waking is probably the most valuable investment in intimacy you have together.
Occasionally the question comes up on this board, "what would you do differently if you had a time machine?" and now after thinking about this its definitely what I would go back and change if I could, instead of making excuses (snoring, medical problems, staying up late to pursue my own personal interests) I would have chosen to bond with her, help meet my needs for "physical touch", who knows it maybe would have meant more sex (which was the biggest reason she said she left, and its not like I wasn't horny just absent from the bed, no matter what strong sounding reason I may have had).
Good point, Lon... and thank you. This had become a point of discussion lately between my wife and I, and was actually brought up by me. It is especially important considering the fact that I work night shift for 4 weeks at a time. When I am on night shift, I make it a point (and always have) to reverse my sleeping habits on my days off. That allows me to participate normally in my family schedule and sleep next to my wife at night. It wouldnt be possible to head to bed together every night simply because of logistics, but the nights of us falling asleep on the couch without each other because we just "got comfortable" are over.