Originally Posted by jnj express
In my last dying breath here on this thread, I never at any point suggested she tell him anything----read again----the statement was---"that info alone"---where did I tell her to use it---he would get that info from an atty, from the internet, from D codes---from friends---from anyone----stop making your wild assumptions
I'm not the one who was making wild assumptions in this thread.
As for the "that info alone" statement...I'm sure you know of what your original intentions were. However, you were more than unclear when trying to get it across on this forum. The way you framed your statement made it easy to mistake your meaning. And I will admit that my defensiveness after being attacked likely had something to do with my interpretation of it. I also know, from personally running a forum for a number of years, that it is VERY easy to be misunderstood when putting your thoughts across in written word. As a result, I'm personally very careful and deliberate when I post anything in a forum, write an email, or the like.
But my point is that I'm sure her husband is perfectly aware of what could be the ultimate financial outcome. I'm sure he has plenty of coworkers and/or friends who have their own stories (true or untrue) of how they've been "taken to the cleaners" by an ex. But those stories havent changed the way he has approached his marriage or made him take her concerns more seriously. Unfortunately, if the prospect of being divorced and having to financially support his ex-wife and children while being on the outside looking in hasn't changed his outlook, that angle will never work with him. sunshiney's best chance to get through to him is to try to appeal to his sensibilities.
With that said, I am also done with that subject. I've spent enough energy on it.