Originally Posted by bippy17
Thanks PBear. Appreciate the reply. Your right, to me the 180 was changing the fact that I always look weak and fragile and doing the 180 to come off as tough and I can survive without you (but really hoping she'd breakdown and say she really misses me and wants to possibly work on things). I guess then if I do the 180 it's more to fix me and get myself better.
With that said, how would I then go about winning her back and her looking at me in a different light??
Being the kind of man your W could date. I know what my wife's interests are, I know how to humor her, etc. And, I know what kind of guy she'll be seeking. Be that man. Show her things you've neglected over the marriage. Be the person she originally fell in love with. What did you do? How did you act?
Force yourself to do this for YOU. Not in hopes and attempts at getting her back. Because, you will run into setbacks, dismissals, rejection even, but if you react differently (than your habit), and do all of these things consistently, over time, it will show her that change is possible.
Even if she came back to you, don't shelve the new ways/attitudes. Keep it up. Forge a new relationship (your marriage didn't work, so don't return to it).